Thursday, September 27, 2012

Love should be stupid.

Love is difficult. Love is not going to come served to you on a palate, you will have to work hard to get the kind of love that is rightly called so.
I was crazy about my first “crush”. I was irrationally head over heels in love with him, or so I thought. I was stupid enough to believe everything he said and I obviously screwed it up. I got dumped (or maybe I dumped him as I had had it, the line is not so clear). The point is that then I decided to be ‘rational’ in love.
I got into this second relationship, all planned and worked out about what I wanted and how I will never be “crazy” about him no matter what. Obviously this time too, I made a fool of myself by being in a virtually loveless “partnership” sort of thing. I would rationalize everthing about this relationship and it was not going to end well, and it didn’t. I was stupid enough to try and make sense out of “love”.
This time, I want to make it right. I don’t want this sequence of trial and error to go on a fourth time. This time I mean it to be a success and for that I am trying an optimal mix of rationality and craziness. It is stupid enough for me to be trying this long distance thing anyway, but I want to see it through. I want to be crazy about him like a hopeless romantic and yet apply all my logic to make sure it doesn’t fail.
Love is not going to make any sense. You have to be a bit of a fool to stay in love with someone because everyone has flaws. You have to make yourself blind to the flaws of the one you want to stay in love with.
You stop seeing “what’s right” when you begin to see “what’s wrong” with someone. Don’t do that. “Stay hungry; stay foolish” as Steve Jobs said, though in a completely different context, applies here too. I have to be mad enough to be attracted to him all the time, be brainless enough for him to feel that I have eyes only for him.
And the loyalty is worth it. The pain too that comes with it (long distance yearning I mean) is totally going to be worth it. Because, as they say, nothing that you get easily is really worth having.


Amul said...

No one is perfect, and there are a lot to learn from each other's imperfections. The one big thing is the sense of trust you get out of that hopeless romanticism, that makes things work out well. And, the key I feel is not to lose that trust. And, yes, Love is never about being completely rational. If it is, it will feel like a contract :P..

To both of you, May insanity and love always flourish :))..

SilentThinker said...

Nice post!

Manee said...

Thanks Silent Thinker :)

BTW you have a nice "ABOUT ME" :P

Shubham Goyal said...

Love your post,not that because I find it right because its written from your heart...Dont make love right or wrong...Dont make it a part of brainy world...let be the most beautiful,sacred part of your lyf...Fall in love like you are falling for the first tym...Love z never ever going to make any sense and its da best part of it..if ever it makes sense , u are not in love then your mind works ,mind makes things ryt and wrong...hw can love be ryt or wrong...jst love without thinking and it does not matter will it work or not..for dat moment in love you are most beautiful person , you are are closer to god..closer to him/her...Fall/Rise in love irrationaly absurdly ....:)Love

Ramneeq Arora said...

Seriously that was an eye opener. Great thoughts there. (Y)

Will be waiting for more posts like this. Good luck!